Day 17

Subtitled: Why I will wait

First of I just want to say I don't want to be preachy, ever when I blog, I only want to share what I find inspiring and decisions that I have made for myself.

Recently I posted a few times that I am going to be involved with ALPHA ministries, which is a course which explains the truth of what Christianity is, in a non threatening, no pressure environment. Recently, while prepping to be an ALPHA leader I came across the chapter of sex before marriage, all the scripture verses aside, there were some very good points they made, in which really showed me what I had missed out on by not waiting before I had gotten married. I had realized deeply how big of a mistake I had made by not waiting.

      Ex-scripts from the training books, and comments:

      First we risk hurting ourselves, when a relationship involving sexual

      intercourse breaks down, one or both parties get hurt. - this is very true I

      never took a break up harder than when I was sexually involved with the 

      people I was in the relationship with.

      In The Times, an article was published saying that couples who wait have 

      some thing to look forward to. They leave their parent's home in the morning 

      of the wedding as children, and climb into bed at night as adults. There is so 

      much to play with all at the same time: the new home, the giggling joint 

      wash-up sessions, the bed, the joint check book, and because it all started 

      with the wedding it became apart of the same adventure. - reading this made 

      me realize what I missed out on by not waiting, that initial excitement the 

      inclusion of every thing as part of the marriage. Sure the wedding was still 

      exciting and what not but I was always distracted with all the other stuff that 

      I would have to do, dishes taking care of my step daughter, dealing with 

      morning sickness cause my wife was already pregnant etc. The special 

      moment wasn't any thing like has been described to me.

The book goes on to compare sex before marriage like sneaking a peek at a present early before Christmas, how its just not the same, and the guilt and having to pretend the enthusiasm and what not. It just really opened my eyes, and so like I posted yesterday I have decided never again, I pray that the next woman I find will be able to understand this, as well as I hope it doesn't make me seem less attractive.

(notes: in the indented paragraph the italicized portions are from the book and the normal font is my comment on the subject.)

-365daysnowomen